With all this talk of smashing the glass ceiling and leaning in, it can feel like there is a lot of pressure to have a big career. We might feel shame around admitting we’re a SAHM or like we’re not setting a good enough example to our children because we haven’t climbed the corporate ladder.
What about all the women who fought for the opportunities that we have? Don’t we owe it to them to make the most of them, we might say to ourselves?
But with the demands placed on women to excel in their professional and personal lives, it’s not surprising that what many mums want is to lean out, not in.
A lot of the women I speak with are exhausted. They’re fed up with trying to work as if they’re not parents, and trying to parent as if they don’t work.
“I just want a stress-free job that fits in with the family” is something I’ve heard many times.
And you know what, I say fair enough.
While some might strive for professional advancement and leadership roles, there are many women (and men for that matter) who would prefer a job with less stress, that simply pays the bills.
It’s perfectly valid to desire a balanced lifestyle that prioritises personal well-being, family and other passions. In fact, I wish we lived in a world where this wasn’t seen as a cop-out or quiet quitting. It should be normal to do a 40-hour week (or part time equivalent) and switch off at home.
But while we live in a world that places striving, presenteeism and going the extra mile on a pedestal then here are some things to keep in mind if you’re waging war with yourself for wanting the simple life.
You don’t have to be a sheep
In a society that places great emphasis on career progression and external achievements, it can be challenging to deviate from the norm and embrace a path that doesn’t conform to traditional notions of success. However, it’s crucial to remember that your worth and happiness are not solely determined by your job title, the money you make or the level of responsibility you hold.
Embrace your decision to prioritise other aspects of your life and remind yourself that it is a valid choice that aligns with your values and personal circumstances.
Own what success means to you
Success and fulfilment are subjective concepts that differ from person to person. While some may find fulfilment in climbing the corporate ladder and achieving professional milestones, others derive satisfaction from personal growth, meaningful relationships, or pursuing their passions outside of work.
It’s essential to redefine success in your own terms and identify what brings you joy and contentment. You can start to do this by creating a vision board or journaling about what your ideal week likes like. This will provide clues as to what’s really important to you.
Remember that many of those slaving away in the corporate world, may never have taken the time to get in touch with what they want.
You are setting a positive example
Choosing a low-responsibility job does not diminish your worth or the example you set for your children. In fact, by consciously prioritising your well-being and happiness, you demonstrate the importance of self-care, work-life balance, and pursuing a life that aligns with your values.
You teach your children that success is not solely measured by external achievements but by living authentically and finding fulfilment in various aspects of life. By making choices that prioritise your overall well-being, you become an inspiration to those around you, including your children.
Know that nothing is forever
It’s important to remember that life is a journey, and your career choices can evolve over time. Embrace the present decision you’ve made but remain open to the possibility of change in the future.
Low-responsibility jobs provide the flexibility to explore different paths and make adjustments when needed. While re-entering the workforce or accelerating your career after a break may present challenges, it is never impossible.
Trust in your ability to adapt and make choices that align with your changing needs and desires.
Whatever your reason for wanting a stress-free job, remember that this is your life and you do not need to feel pressured by the external world. You have made a valid and empowering decision that enables you to prioritise work-life balance and define success on your own terms.
If you need help discovering what that stress-free career change looks like then get started with my FREE toolkit Six Simple Steps to get Started on your Career change.
Denny